Life Happens

Lupe & Brian discuss a few realizations in regards to Sjogren’s Syndrome they had grieving the loss of Ali, the family dog of ten and a half years.

Lupe & Brian: Welcome to another episode of Sjogren’s strong.

[00:00:03] Brian: This is Brian.

[00:00:04] Lupe: And this is Lupe.

[00:00:05]Brian: And this is your weekly podcast discussing how to live an active and healthy lifestyle despite a diagnosis of Sjogren’s.

[00:00:13] Lupe: And today we had a different episode planned, but a life happens so, we pushed the episode to next week and today we’re going to talk about something else.

[00:00:25] Brian: We’re very excited about next week’s episode, but as the title of this show states, Life Happens. And we wanted to bring it up and talk about it and talk about some of the things we discovered, with Lupe having Sjogren’s in dealing with this.

[00:00:47] And what this is, is the loss and not only the loss, but the decision that we had to make to put a dog down that we’ve had for 10 and a half years going on 11 years.

[00:01:04] And to compound that, this was Lupe’s first dog, and her name was Ali. And this is going to be kind of a difficult show for the both of us to get through, so bear with us.

[00:01:18] Lupe: Our eyes are already watering.

[00:01:21] Brian: That they are. So,  we,10 and a half years ago, we went to a PetCo, which is a chain of pet stores out here on the West coast., Im not sure if they’re national, because they were having an adoption day. And we both believe in rescuing dogs. So we wanted to go see what they had. And what we found was this cute, tiny little, adorable boxer- terrier mix.

[00:01:51] Lupe: She was about  eight weeks, I don’t know, five pounds, five, six pounds?

[00:02:00] And, um, she was just this beautiful little girl. And, uh. I saw her first and, but I didn’t pick her up. And until a little boy, he’s like, dad, dad, that’s the one I want. And I’m like, nope, but not today. So I grabbed her.

[00:02:20] Brian: So she snatched this little dog, almost out of the hands of this little boy.

[00:02:26] Lupe: Not quite, not quite! I saw her first !

[00:02:29] Brian: And we brought Ali home. And again, being Lupe’s first dog and not being raised with pets, she was a little timid and shy.

[00:02:41] Lupe: Oh, forget that. The word is scared. I was so afraid of this little dog. I didn’t know how to handle it, how to touch it, how to, how to pick it up. I was scared of it.

[00:02:53] Brian: And me having grown up around dogs and pets and animals, um, I did. So, not that this show is focused on Ali, we just kind of wanted to share a little back story. Uh, she’s been with us for 10  1/2 years and she was an awesome dog.

[00:03:09] New to sit, new to go out back. She was easy to train, full of energy, but the last year or so or health has been failing and it’s been issue after issue. And we made the decision because she either had cancer and or congestive heart failure, and her being the age she was, um, with consulting with the vet, um, this was the option that we chose. Because she’s been in and out of the vet for quite a while now, dealing with issue after issue.

[00:03:44] And it’s a really tough decision to make. And I’m of the opinion that if we make that decision, we’re going to be there till the end, which is what we did. We stayed with her through the entire process until her heart stopped.

[00:04:03] Lupe: And that happened pretty quickly from the time, uh, they push that drug into her I.V.

[00:04:13] Brian: Yeah. So, a couple of things that we realized throughout this process was A, we’re going through a grieving process, and when one grieves, it’s hard to eat. And it’s hard to focus on taking care of you. And it’s easy to fall back on foods we shouldn’t be consuming. So this being realized, day one sucked. Let me just be honest. it was out the window.

[00:04:49] Lupe: That was  yesterday.

[00:04:50]Brian: That was yesterday., Monday.

[00:04:52] Lupe: Veteran’s Day.

[00:04:53]Brian: And we got through the day, let me put it that way. Today, obviously, we’re in the studio recording this episode for tomorrow, and who knows what’s gonna happen with tonight’s meal, but you had a healthier lunch.

[00:05:08] Lupe: I did. I had healthier lunch. I had salad, spinach and kale salad. Because yesterday what we had for dinner was a Cup O Noodles  with crumbled Doritos in it. So, that wasn’t healthy. And actually that was the only thing we ate all day. So, I mean, you know, if you have an autoimmune or even if you don’t, that’s not enough to get you through the day and then, you know, you just kinda start feeling crappy.

[00:05:35] Brian: And one thing

[00:05:37] I realized is, I wasn’t hydrating and I’ve been playing catch up all day. Um, the other thing that came to light was Lupe  was able to produce some tears.

[00:05:49] Lupe: I was actually bawling my eyes out. Um, I cried so much. I mean, my eyes are dry, but I’ve been able to cry, thankfully. But this morning when I woke up my eyes, I cried so much, and I don’t know if this happens to people that don’t have Sjogren’s, but my eyelids were almost swollen shut.

[00:06:10] So I’m like, what the heck is going on? But I realized it was because I had been crying the night before. Well, the the day before, and then throughout the night I kept waking up, you know?

[00:06:20] So, where did tears come from?

[00:06:22] Brian: Where do you tears come from?

[00:06:24] Lupe: Where did tears come from? I mean, you know, if I have dry eyes and I don’t produce any tears, but when I get emotional, I’m able to cry. So, I think I’ve asked this before, where do they come from?

[00:06:34] Brian: You know, you don’t always produce tears when you cry, though.

[00:06:37] Lupe: Me?

[00:06:38] Brian: You’ve cried without tears.

[00:06:40] Lupe: Then, really?

[00:06:42]Brian: What was the feeling, yesterday, in this morning with tears?

[00:06:47] Lupe: Well, it was your heart aching.

[00:06:49] No, but did your eyes feel better because you’re able to produce tears? Did you feel like you need the less drops the last day and a half?

[00:06:56] Ah, you know what? Now that you mentioned that, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Because usually when I wake up in the morning, my eyes, they hurt. I mean, they hurt and they can’t focus, for a while, a few minutes. Because the first thing that I get up, if it’s to go to work during the week, I go to the refrigerator, I take my Restasis out of the fridge and I put a drop in each  eye.

[00:07:25] But if it’s on the weekend, I just sit there and blink, blink, blink, and it doesn’t get me any where because I don’t have tears. So my eyes just feel like sandpaper. But today when I woke up, besides my eyelids being swollen, they didn’t, um, they didn’t hurt.

[00:07:50] Lupe: And I didn’t realize that until you just said that.

[00:07:53] Brian: Well, it’s something that I noticed and I kind of expected that answer, but wanted to ask you why we’re recording this episode.

[00:08:02] Lupe: Well, had you not set it, I wouldn’t know even realize it.

[00:08:05] Brian: So, you know, I guess we wanted to share the couple of realizations that we made and we invite you to comment on this episode, whether it be on or hit us up on Living Sjogren’s Strong, our private group on Facebook and, or just a post on Facebook.

[00:08:27] Let us know things that you may have experienced during a grieving process, um, if you don’t mind sharing that. But having healthier foods prepared and ready to go. I mean, it was Monday. We had just grocery shopped. I guess there was no excuse other than, you know, we didn’t, I, I’ll fall on the sword here. I didn’t want to cook. I didn’t want to do much. And you know, I’ll take the hit for that.

[00:08:59] Lupe: You don’t have to take it. Both of us. Well, we went to the grocery store Sunday and we didn’t prepare our food. So, but you know, we were caring for Ali, also.

[00:09:13] Brian: Yeah, her  last couple of days, she needed a lot of extra love and attention. But please share with us, if you’ve gone through a grieving process with Sjogren’s or, and any realizations that you might have made and, you know, in preparation.

[00:09:31] Sometimes we know hardship is coming our way and that a grief will be an emotion that we experience and feel. And not that we can prepare for it. But I mean, at the very least, me, I should’ve been reminding Lupe to sip, drink. I feel I should have been preparing a healthier meal than a Cup O Noodles with Doritos.

[00:09:56] Lupe: Don’t forget the Doritos.

[00:09:57] Brian: Um, but. You know, I was melancholy all day yesterday. I moved meetings from morning to afternoon and, you know, I’m sure some of you are going to be listening, going why? It’s just a dog. But we are dog people and Ali’s been part of our life for 10  1/2 years. And she went on some cool trips with us, Kings Canyon, we visited the beach.

[00:10:22] Lupe: She went on a road trip with us and used to bark at semis.

[00:10:27] Brian: Yeah. And unfortunately in the end, she couldn’t even, really, stand up in the back seat of the car to bark at passing trucks. But, um, we wanted to get this episode out because we don’t want to miss a week. And next week’s episode is going to be.

[00:10:44] Lupe: The Arthritis Dietician.

[00:10:45]Brian: The Arthritis Dietitian, and that’s the show that should’ve come to you this week. But we weren’t quite 100% done with, um, having it ready for you. And we wanted to get a show out. We really and truly appreciate all of you listening to Sjogrens Strong, our numbers keep increasing week after week, which is telling.

[00:11:07] And it tells us that you guys like what we’re doing and part of what we do is our real life experience and unfortunately, this is something we experienced and we wanted to share.

[00:11:18] Lupe: Well, this show to me, is about keeping it real. You know, it’s life happens with or without Sjogren’s, you know? And we just want to be ourselves and yeah.

[00:11:33] Um, I want to say, I did post yesterday about the loss of Ali, and I did it not because, ugh, tears, not because, you know, we were looking for sympathy, but just, I want to remember.

[00:11:59] Brian: And Facebook’s really good about putting memories in our, in our face. And you know, this happened a year ago and this happened two years ago. And having that there is comforting to us. You know, it’s a reminder that she won’t be forgotten.

[00:12:17] So for those of you who did share love with us, we appreciate that. Um, it wasn’t the intent of the post, but, uh, we do appreciate the kind words and love.

[00:12:29] Lupe: Because, again, I like sharing my personal experiences, the good and the bad, what I’m going through. And Ali was part of my life. And I’m going to miss her. And thanks for everybody’s loving comments.

[00:12:47] As I’m wiping a tear, until next time, sip constantly and stay hydrated.

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